THE ART OF COMMUNICATION

HOW TO BE AUTHENTIC, LEAD OTHERS AND CREATE STRONG CONNECTIONS

 

 

Judy Apps

 

 

 

 

 

 

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“Intriguing, intelligent and insightful, Judy Apps advocates an interconnected future in which we capture the strengths of both left and right brain thinking. She shares her deep and magical understanding of one of the biggest challenges of our times ‐ getting people to connect at a meaningful level with wisdom and wholeheartedness.”

Kate Burton, coach and author of Live Life. Love Work and Coaching with NLP for Dummies

“The authenticity of our relationships depends on our willingness and ability to truly communicate and not only to converse. The Art of Communication is a wise, compassionate and enormously helpful guide in how to do so. Importantly, it also describes the reasons why, and the ways in which we don't communicate. In offering clear and practical support and encouragement to engage wholeheartedly with each other, it is also extremely timely in these turbulent times. In needing to link up together in real‐ationships and as a global community, its message is vital as to whether and how we survive and thrive as a species.”

Dr. Jude Currivan, Cosmologist, author of The Cosmic Hologram and co‐founder of WholeWorld‐View (www.wholeworld‐view.org)

“I love this wonderful new book by Judy Apps. It really is the real thing about the art of communication, in particular about the more elusive, hard‐to‐describe art of communication, when something spontaneous, meaningful and heartfelt happens between people in a conversation.

Sometimes when people communicate, some kind of intangible energy connection seems to get sparked between them. When that happens people start to experience themselves as more present, and more seen and more heard. Everyone starts somehow to feel more alive, awake and fully human, blessed even. Something that matters changes, becomes more soft and open, becomes more possible.

We love to experience these ordinary, not‐ordinary, magical moments in life when something new emerges and a new level of understanding is there. There's a lovely spark, a connection, a felt sense of meaning and expansion of being. We've touched each other in our deepest places of our shared humanity, and it's a joyful moment.

This deeper level of communication is usually so hard to describe. Judy Apps calls it ‘the alternative world of real communication’. It's a paradox really, to learn how to be spontaneous in a skilful, warm‐hearted and creative way. How do some people get to be naturally gifted at what we might think of as an intuitive ability?

In our fracturing, uncertain, dehumanising world many of us are quick to anger and alienation. Judy Apps' approach and the practical research, suggestions, examples and activities she offers in this book, offer a space to breathe and an opportunity to learn new ways.

It's a timely and important book for everyone who wants to help create a positive human future. It's a great resource for people who want to use their words to heal and not to hurt. It's a beautiful and inspiring manual on everyday communication and on how you can personally nurture and practice the core skillset of this intangible yet essential art.

It's an excellent and wise guidebook you'll want to absorb and be deeply informed by as you find your own way to the real, living heart of conversation.”

Judith Lowe, Director at PPD Learning; Training and Coaching in Systemic and Generative NLP

“Such a communicator is Judy Apps that she's drawing us in one moment with a quote from Rumi, and the next with a line from Mariah Carey. In a book about deep authentic connection, Judy offers advice and insight about how to create moments of flow and magic in communication. For anyone who wants to have meaningful, insightful conversations that go beyond tricks and techniques, this is a powerful and wise book.”

Sarah Smith, Director, Indigo Leadership

“Judy Apps has a gift for seeing how we are and has cleverly deconstructed how we relate to each other. She has given us a really helpful map for us to reach out to others and through simple conversations, satisfy our deep yearning to be more connected. She shows us the value of letting our real selves emerge, how we can do that, and more importantly that it is safe to do so.”

Gina Lazenby, Best‐selling author of Feng Shui titles, founder of the Healthy Home Retreat, radio show host and speaker on community gathering, wisdom and feminine leadership

“In our times when it's easy to feel separated, divided and overwhelmed, this book is unbelievably timely. Friendly, practical, wise and sometimes uncomfortably accurate, reading it is itself like having an intimate conversation. It clearly contains many years of personal and professional experience. I'll certainly be recommending it to colleagues and clients.”

Neil Scotton, Co‐Founder, The One Leadership Project

“Your life evolves one conversation at a time. Judy Apps has done a fabulous job of demonstrating this truth and how to access the power and potential that can exist within your next conversation.”

Nick Williams, Leadership guide and author of sixteen books including The Work We Were Born To Do

“Great read! The Art of Communication will help you connect with your authentic self, challenge your thinking and eliminate negative self‐talk that interferes with meaningful conversations. It helps you explore the role of your right brain in influencing the degree of presence we have in any conversations.”

Gamiel Yafai, Diversity and Inclusion strategist and author of Demystifying Diversity

“A delightful book on a tricky topic which is handled deftly by the author. I particularly like the many anecdotes that illustrate so well the points being made to lead us to being better at meaningful conversations.”

Paul Matthews, Author of The L&D at Work Trilogy and founder of People Alchemy

“If you want to improve the way you communicate, read this book. Judy Apps shows you how to trust your intuition, be spontaneous and let go of previously held beliefs and behaviours in order to create honest conversations that lead to positive outcomes.”

Elizabeth Kuhnke, Executive Presence Coach, Author of Body Language: Learn How to Read Others and Communicate with Confidence

“I highly recommend this life enhancing book. It is insightful, thought provoking, encouraging, well written and fun to read. It made me believe in myself and feel eager to go out and practice the learning in my personal and professional life.”

Celia Morris, MBA (Chartered) FCIPD, Training and Development Manager, Railways Division, Mott MacDonald

“A must‐read book for left‐brained technologists, accustomed to presenting facts and numbers, but who struggle to reach their audience (be it one person or a hundred) at a more personal level. Judy's guidance will give you the confidence to relax, draw on the right‐hemisphere of your brain and teach you to enjoy interacting as human to human. It is full of gems that you will keep going back to, as you continue to improve your presentation and communication skills.”

Graham Nixon, IT Partner, KPMG (ret'd), Commodore of the Royal Southern Yacht Club

For John

Intelligence is of two kinds …

– Jalāl ad‐Dīn Muhammad Rūmī, Persia, 1207–1273

We should take care not to make the intellect our god; it has, of course, powerful muscles, but no personality. It cannot lead, it can only serve; and it is not fastidious in its choice of a leader.

– Albert Einstein, born in Germany, 1879 –1955

It is not rational to assume, without evidence, that rationality can disclose everything about the world, just because it can disclose some things. Our intuition in favour of rationality, where we are inclined to use it, is just that – an intuition. Reason is founded in intuition and ends in intuition, like a pair of massive bookends.

–Iain McGilchrist, Britain, 1953 –